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Ep 151: Changing Self-Critical Language

How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it’s “I can’t” all the way to “I am not enough” – they become the sum of what they hear and it’s time to change!

Here are the highlights:

(2:35) Why is this important?

(6:06) A bit of science…

(7:58) Self-audit

(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play

(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?

(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel

(23:15) Get your child on board – don’t lecture!


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