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Ep 143: Back-Chat & Boundaries

I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. 


Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} Why are you seeing this behaviour?

{4:45} Give your child choices where you can

{9:11} Switch out of power dynamics

{14:10} Remember the 3 C’s

{20:00} Daily connection with each child

{24:00} Regularly check-in with yourself & your partner


Listen to previous episodes mentioned during this episode:

Ep 6: Parenting & Co-parenting

Ep 13: Why punishments don’t work


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